It was one of my best friends birthdays yesterday, so typically I went through Facebook to dig out some throwbacks from our university days together. After about an hour trawling through albums I’d made private in recent years, I began to remember a lot of things I’d forgotten. A lot of the incredible memories we’d created.
Not only this, but it got me thinking about the journey we went through together during university, and how far the both of us had come and changed since. Changed and grown for the better. I then started thinking about my younger self. The Maya, 5 to 10 years ago. Who was she?
Well I’ll tell you a few things. She was loud, mostly happy, slightly nervous, not all very confident, and a little lost and unsure of herself.
So I decided to write a list of 10 things I’d tell my younger self if I had the chance.
Here’s the list:
10 Things I’d Tell My Younger Self
Stop trying to impress people.
Not everyone is going to like you and that is ok. It’s important to be true to yourself, and be the real version of you. Don’t change who you are to impress someone else. If a person doesn’t like you for you, then that’s still ok. It probably means you’re better off without them anyway.
Don’t let someone tell you ‘NO’
If someone tells you, you can’t do something, prove them wrong. If you really want something, you’ll do anything to make it happen. No one else can judge your abilities, only you know your true strengths and weaknesses. So if someone tells you ’no’, don’t just accept it and walk away. Fight for that yes, prove that person you can do it, and you will do it. You’ve just got to believe in yourself.
Don’t be afraid of making mistakes.
None of us are 100% perfect from the get go. Perfection takes time and practice. So don’t be afraid of making mistakes. In fact, you’ll probably find value in those mistakes. Learn from what went wrong, and consider it a learning curve.
Reading is so important and it’s something that I overlooked when I was in school because I found it so boring. However since going to university and in recent years, I’ve really enjoyed reading. I think the reason I hated it so much was because I only ever read what I was told to read from teachers in school. And the majority of those books were ‘boring’. To my younger self: find a topic that interests you and read about it, or find an author from a similar background who writes about things you like. Explore more libraries and book stores. Literature is the key to learning and self growth.
5. Don’t lose friends over disagreements.
Your true friends are the ones who’ll support you, be there in your hour of need, but also tell you the truth including when you’re in the wrong. Listen to them. Just because you might not like what they’re saying, it doesn’t mean you should shut them out, ignore them or let your disagreements ruin your friendship. You don’t have to agree on everything 100%. It’s actually better to share and talk about your different opinions and share these with each other.
6. Admit when you’re wrong.
Don’t be afraid to own up to something you did, or got wrong. Many of us are so afraid of doing something wrong that we often try to hide our mistakes. I’ve learnt that this in fact doesn’t help. The mistake just snowballs and gets bigger and bigger the more we try to cover it up. The truth always comes out and it’s better to learn from the mistake and be open about it than carry it around with us in secret.
7. Life isn’t a popularity contest.
You don’t need to have hundreds of friends. This one kind of goes back to number 1 where I said stop trying to impress people. But honestly life isn’t a popularity contest. In school I wanted to have lots of friends. I wanted everyone to like me. Growing up I’ve grown out of this mentality, I know it’s better to have a handful of friends you know and trust, rather than hundreds you barely know nothing about.
8. If you don’t know, ask!
It makes complete sense, but all too many of us have fallen in this trap. If you don’t know or understand something, just ask. No one will think you’re stupid for not knowing the answer or asking for help. And this goes for anything, from school, to work and your financial life. If you’re at school and need extra help because you don’t understand something, raise your hand and don’t be afraid to ask. I admit I’ve been the one to sit in the corner of the classroom to shy and embarrassed to say I don’t understand, because all the other students understood and I didn’t want to look stupid. But it’s not just school. At work if your boss gives you a task that you’ve never done before and don’t know what to do, don’t stress yourself out about it. Just ask for help. I’m sure your boss would prefer you asking questions instead of spending hours trying to figure it out alone, failing and doing the wrong thing. You can never ask too many questions!
9. Communicate how you feel.
Don’t hide your emotions. If you’ve got something to say, say it. Keeping your feelings and emotions trapped in a bottle isn’t going to help anyone. If you’re having problems with someone, tell them. You aren’t going to be able to overcome those problems if you don’t talk about them openly. Equally, if you’ve got something good to say to someone, say it. Don’t wait around for the ‘right’ moment, it may have already passed, or you may be waiting a very long time. Communicate how you feel right in the moment. Don’t hang about for the ‘right time’. The right time is NOW.
10. Respect your body & mind!
As I’m getting older I’ve begun to think more about my body, mind and health. I say more, but truthfully I’ve never really thought about it until the last year or so.
I’ve always been fairly active, exercising regularly, going for long walks or the gym, but recently I’ve been thinking more about how lifestyle choices affect my health. Now I’m a young woman and like many of us out there I do enjoy going out with friends and having a few too many drinks. To my younger self, I’m not saying you shouldn’t drink and party, I’m just saying be more mindful. If you’re having a big night out, prepare your mind and body for it. That day hydrate yourself and drink 2-3 liters of water so you’re not exhausted and dehydrated the next morning.
Honestly, 2-3 liters of water and you won’t even be worrying about a hangover. But it’s not just liquids, make sure you eat properly too. Have a big meal BEFORE you start drinking. And after that big night out, make sure you get some proper rest. Getting home in the early hours of the morning, having 3-5 hours sleep and then heading off to work is probably not a good idea. You’re not helping your boss, nor are you helping that body of yours which is collapsing of tiredness as you work.
So there you have it, my list of 10 things I’d tell my younger self if I had the chance to.
After writing out the list, I did a live video about it on my Facebook Page: Globetrotting Maya. You can watch the video here. 🙂
If you could give one piece of advice to your younger self, what would it be? Leave a comment in the box below. I’d love to know your thoughts.
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